I will just say it outright: I am high maintenance.
I take 30+ minutes to get ready in the morning, I need to have my hair done, my clothes clean and ironed, my makeup as flawless as the day allows me, and my accessories always on. I am in no way minimalistic when it comes to my 'everyday look' and the prep behind it. I'd describe my morning routine as a coat hanger in a 50-people party.
For a lot of people in that mindset, it can be hard to actually put together an outfit and they might also never seem to have anything to wear. However, that is not the case for me, and it's even therapeutic and ritualistic to do all that every single day. I am sure we will have a conversation on feminine pieces itself, someday, if you're available, but today I just so happen to be wanting to tell you about this little thing I observed, which is not only resourceful and sustainable, but also a revelation for me.
What you need is what you probably already have
I felt extra… like myself, the day I wore this outfit. So much so that I asked my friend to click pictures of me, which has never happened before.
The dress was bought 5 years ago, the top 4 years ago, the hairstyle is subconsciously pretty much borrowed from my mom who is way older than 5 years, affirmatively. However, for the first 3-something years I frequently avoided wearing either of them (because I never felt good enough in them), and during the recent years I wore them forcing my brain to believe I looked good in them separately.
All of that changed when I wore them together. I felt how Mark Zuckerberg probably feels in T-shirts and jeans. I feel him now, more than ever; more than just believing how thoughtful an ensemble could be practically and artistically.
I wasn't happy with them when I bought them, and a lot of people aren't, in similar situations. I've had many closet cleanses since then, but for some reason I never threw these out. Every single time you dislike something but can't put a finger on it, you just need to do it differently. Working over and over again using plan A will hardly ever work after so many fails; it will only ever drive one to give up. And giving up leads to buying more clothes that one probably also wouldn't seem to know how to style either.
You already have everything you could need to put together a decent outfit if you observe keenly enough. Roll up the ankles of that old pair of jeans, do your hair differently, layer pieces you never thought of layering before, it makes a bigger difference than you think.
I refuse to let social media dress me… anymore
This outfit consists of a bell-sleeved top, an a-line dress, and socks with strappy heels. The last time those were trendy was when my grandmother wasn't born yet, my mother wasn't born yet, and I wasn't born yet, respectively (facts). Is the outfit trendy today or expensive? No. Does it still make me feel absolutely beautiful? Hell yeah. And when was the last time you saw a flowy denim skater dress with white roses on it? That's right, NEVER. It's special, unique.
My hair is also blatantly stolen from my mother, except less mature, literally and figuratively. She wears it because that's what she knew and loved in her youth, and I wear it because it looks good on her, so it must look good on me, right? Theoretically, wrong, but practically, absolutely works.
No, I will not buy a plain old blazer in the name of formals, because it looks separate from my incredibly round features. I will not buy a nice thin belt that looks good on everybody and the rack, because it cuts me off in all the wrong places. Forget what your favorite fashion blogger or designer wants you to wear. Bandage dresses are not universal.
Prioritizing Tasks
Oftentimes, we spend hours deciding what to wear, and that is mostly because the amount of clothes we have is overwhelming. That is another area where shopping your closet and decluttering helps.
As I said, I spend 30 minutes getting ready, but I am glad I spend those 30 minutes actually working on the vision I have in mind, rather than wasting my time preparing or planning. Failing to plan is planning to fail, at least in things that involve routine. Arguably, it increases my productivity because I feel ready to take on the world.
Whenever I get ready for a day out, whether it is to college or somewhere else, I think if I suddenly get to meet Barack Obama that day, will he think of me as a careless, casual nobody or as a well-dressed, put together, nice smelling nobody. Not everybody will have such fantasies, but as I said, I'm high maintenance.
And I'd rather have it that way than otherwise
In conclusion, you have a unique set of clothes that nobody else has, unless it's an insane coincidence. But since that is highly unlikely, it gives you multiple permutations and combinations for many, many days, which are unique to you and only you. It is your own signature style. No sensible person would care that you wear the same 3 things every single day as long as you look bangin' and present yourself impeccably.
And remember, you have nobody to prove yourself in front of except opportunities and people who truly matter.
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